Thursday, March 29, 2012

10 Things for Teenage Girls... but I think Women too

Saw this posted on Facebook by a Seminary student of mine that is now in college. While I have passed the age of some of these things on this list, others are good for my life now and in the future and I don't think it hurts to remember it. I don't know about you but I desperately need these small reminders in my life that "I am enough."

Ten Things I Want To Tell Teenage Girls

1.  If you choose to wear shirts that show off your boobs, you will attract boys.  To be more specific, you will attract the kind of boys that like to look down girls’ shirts.  If you want to date a guy who likes to look at other girls’ boobs and chase skirts, then great job; keep it up.  If you don’t want to date a guy who ogles at the breasts of other women, then maybe you should stop offering your own breasts up for the ogling.  All attention is not equal.  You think you want attention, but you don’t.  You want respect.  All attention is not equal.
2. Don’t go to the tanning bed.  You’ll thank me when you go to your high school reunion and you look like you’ve been airbrushed and then photoshopped compared to the tanning bed train wrecks formerly known as classmates – well, at least next to the ones that haven’t died from skin cancer.
3.  When you talk about your friends “anonymously” on Facebook, we  know exactly who you’re talking about.  People are smarter than you think they are.  Stop posting passive-aggressive statuses about the myriad of ways your friends disappoint you.
4. Newsflash: the number of times you say “I hate drama” is a pretty good indicator of how much you love drama.  Non-dramatic people don’t feel the need to discuss all the drama they didn’t start and aren’t involved in.
5.  “Follow your heart” is probably the worst advice ever. 
6. Never let a man make you feel weak or inferior because you are an emotional being.  Emotion is good; it is nothing to be ashamed of.  Emotion makes us better – so long as it remains in it’s proper place: subject to truth and reason.
7.  Smoking is not cool.
8.  Stop saying things like, “I don’t care what anyone thinks about me.”  First of all, that’s not true.  And second of all, if it is true, you need a perspective shift.  Your reputation matters – greatly.  You should care what people think of you.
9. Don’t play coy or stupid or helpless to get attention.  Don’t pretend something is too heavy so that a boy will carry it for you.  Don’t play dumb to stroke someone’s ego.  Don’t bat your eyelashes in exchange for attention and expect to be taken seriously, ever.  You can’t have it both ways.  Either you show the world that you have a brain and passions and skills, or you don’t.  There are no damsels in distress managing corporations, running countries, or managing households.  The minute you start batting eyelashes, eyelashes is all you’ve got.
10.  You are beautiful.  You are enough.  The world we live in is twisted and broken and for your entire life you will be subjected to all kinds of lies that tell you that you are not enough.  You are not thin enough.  You are not tan enough.  You are not smooth, soft, shiny, firm, tight, fit, silky, blonde, hairless enough.  Your teeth are not white enough.  Your legs are not long enough.  Your clothes are not stylish enough.  You are not educated enough.  You don’t have enough experience.  You are not creative enough.
There is a beauty industry, a fashion industry, a television industry, (and most unfortunately) a pornography industry: and all of these have unique ways of communicating to bright young women: you are not beautiful, sexy, smart or valuable enough.
You must have the clarity and common sense to know that none of that is true. None of it.
You were created for a purpose, exactly so.  You have innate value.  You are loved more than you could ever comprehend; it is mind-boggling how much you are adored.  There has never been, and there will never be another you.  Therefore, you have unique thoughts to offer the world.  They are only yours, and we all lose out if you are too fearful to share them.
You are beautiful.  You are valuable.  You are enough.

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

March Madness

Peyton is 20 months. She likes:

Belly dancing

Dressing up (especially with her cape)

Being silly (and running from me when I have clothes to put on her)... the Pirates of the Carribean tattoo on her tummy we had on her a while back may have something to do with this. :)

Playing with her blocks and in her room. She loves books, puzzles, blocks, balls and her push toys.

Hides when she poops... It usually comes with a bye bye to us as well.

To talk... and entertain. She does anything and everything as long as their is an audience. Eating is no exception. I am at the point I can understand most of what she says and acts out now. I know others would be stupefied as to what she is trying to say, but as a mama it is nice to finally, really and verbally communicate together now. With words! Her funny phrases include: You are awesome! I fell (we hear that a lot). I'm awake... usually followed by I'm asleep and fake snooring. 'Crazy' with head shaking. And 'silly' with  the same head shaking. She also says your name when you've done something naughty and goes up at the end. Mamaaaaaaaa (higher pitched at the last 'ma'). She is quite the entertainer though.

Likes to sing... but is particular about the song, and will quickly say 'no thank you' and shake her hand in front of your face if it's not the 'right' song. She also joins in with gibberish when we sing songs she doesn't know. Some favorite now are: I'm a Little Tea-cup, ABCs (which she does pretty cute and good... hits maybe 5 or so letters correctly), twinkle twinkle, baa baa black sheep, I Love You (Barney), I Am A Child of God, Sunbeams, Head Shoulders..., Row row your boat, Itsy Bitsy Spider, Wheels on the Bus, Happy and You Know it... etc. She loves nursery rhymes too. Her favorites are Baa Baa Black Sheep, Jack and Jill, and Peter Piper.

She likes to listen to sounds and points to her ear. (helicopter and airplanes mostly, but dogs, cats and birds are right there).

Loves the trash truck. And a little less the ice cream man... she doesn't know what the 2 do yet obviously, just that they make lots of noise.

Does funny expressions.... sad (ugliest, funniest face and our personal fav.), happy, shocked (this is the most common and is usually accompanied by a hand over her mouth and a gasp). Oh, and still says "1 more" for just about everything.
Some 'sad' and 'shocked' photos.

She loves her crib and a lot of the time spends an extra 20 or so minutes in there after she wakes up. We go to get her and she 'shoo's' us away so she can play longer. Um... accepted!

About 10 minute intervals of t.v. :) Except in the mornings when she 'nuggles' under the blanket with us while watching Sesame Street. It's the only time of the day we get to sit with her and it usually lasts about 1/2 an hr.

Counts, 1-2-3-go for the slide and things.

Likes to hold hands, and has started saying, "hold you" when she wants me to hold her.

Has an incredible memory and can sing TV show theme songs (Elmo's world, Yo Gabba Gabba, Barney, etc)

She is finally good enough to feed herself using utensils... spoons are hard yo.

Taking walks and pushing the stroller (hers... the big one.... empty).

Milk. And candy. And noodles.

Adding to her head stand with no arms is her new "yoga" pose. 1 leg up.

She likes just being outdoors. Especially if water is involved. She's good at 'washing the car'. And more recently, we learned this girl loves trampolines.

And, while I know I've said this before, I think I would be willing to put a good deal of money on the statement that, "she is the best baby/toddler in the whole entire world... still!" I kid you not, we have multiple days in the week without tears. She is just such a happy, fun, hilarious (truly), good little friend to have around. I love her so much. I need all my children to be just like her. I even have to admit, she seems kinda easy to me. We've NEVER had a sleepless night... since she moved into her crib at 4 months. Never. (I really hope I don't jinx myself). But, girl loves to sleep. She's rarely grumpy. She's nice and friendly to everyone... not too hip when we leave her but she gets over it in oh about 2 minutes or less. Basically, she's just too cool for words. I give her all the credit. I wish I could take some, but this girl was just born good and sweet. Now, don't get me wrong, we have tantrums, attitude, not very good at sharing, and everything else that comes with the age, but I just think all things considered she is pretty mild mannered and easy going. :) I apologize that I seem to only talk about her and how good she is, and maybe it bugs people sometimes, but my life has been completely turned around (in a good way) since she came around, and I would feel ungrateful if I didn't recognize and thank my Heavenly Father for sending me this sweet little girl. And, in some ways I feel like it is his way of saying, ''Hey I gave you hard times in other things so enjoy this little gift from me. She's perfect."

Sunday, March 25, 2012

Kids Space Pasadena

About 2 weeks ago my mom took Asher and Ella for a few days after baby Tate was born to help Heidi and Ned. On one of those days I tagged along and we went to Kids Space Museum in Pasadena. It was really fun and the kids had a blast exploring and playing.

We got there and had a little picnic in the park. Oddly enough this was Peyton's favorite part of the day I think (maybe 2nd). And... it was all because there were pigeons to chase. She loves birds and these birds are ideal because they don't fly away from kids. So while Asher and Ella threw bread at them, she was trying to catch them. Soon Asher warmed up to them and joined her in chasing them around. And, I'll deny showing them how to chase and kick at them til my dying day. ;) Ella on the other hand got terrified every time they came within 5 ft of her.
I had to include this one because there is Asher and Peyton happily playing along. Then look on the table and there is Ella trying to escape. 
We then meandered in and started to explore. We saw animals, acted like ants and crawled through ant holes, the kids loved anything that had to do with water, and also liked helping the workers 'do their jobs'. We ended our day with a puppet show sing along and playing with play dough and paint.

This may have been Peyton's favorite thing. You'll notice her concentrating face usually involves her tongue hanging out. Little M.J.

This was Ella's favorite thing.

And, Asher's favorite was helping the worker's water the vegetable garden outside.

I would love to go back in the future. I would def. bring water shoes and a change of clothes next time... and probably go when it is a little warmer.

Thursday, March 22, 2012


Today was one of those days I felt truly happy being a mom.

I don't know about you, but do you ever have those days you're baby just seems perfect? Everything they do just makes you happy? They are sweet, fun, cuddly, silly, and just fantabulous. I had that day today and was so content just being home with my sweet little girl.

And, I am sure every mom feels this way... but my baby is Thee. Cutest. Ever! (to me at least).  :) And, I mean it. She is spectacularly cute! Looking and acting. Love, love, love her!

Taken this afternoon 3-22-12 on our couch. After an afternoon of gardening.

Also............... aren't babies so funny? I don't mean the way the act, but just babies in general. I mean, how they are created and all. They are 1/2 mom and 1/2 dad... all based on a lil' swimmer and egg. Mine and Wes' entire genetic codes are imprinted in a little person. Weird!

Today I was looking at Peyton and was feeling a little shocked that she is MY baby. She is mine forever. I will be her 'mom', just like my mom is to me. I still can't believe I am a mom. Aren't I still 18 and needy of my own mom? Weird how we grow, but don't really feel any differently. Makes me look at my own mom differently.

Anyways, enough rambling from me. I just felt so happy today I wanted to record my feelings. Lately, as Peyton is changing and growing so rapidly, and I know I will forget this time and specifically how I felt. Because of this I have been feeling the need to record how happy I am being home with my baby and how much I truly love her, and more specifically my little family.

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Beach Bums

At the beginning of this month my mom had a Friday off so she invited us to go for a bike ride at the beach. It was the PERFECT day (in March nonetheless) and we had a PERFECT time together.

We got frozen bananas in Balboa (where they started).

Then got free parking by this park in Newport. A nice area... and a good spot to have!

Rode down to the Huntington Pier and walked around a bit and ate our sandwiches while watching dolphins in the water.

Biked back to the car and watched the sunset and waded in the water for a bit.

Then headed home with no traffic! Seriously, it could not have been a more perfect day!!!!!!